It’s 1:00am. I should be cozy and cuddly in my bed dreaming all kinds of wonderful dreams, but wait, I’m a mom! I’m basically not allowed to sleep! And so I find myself trying to fall asleep as I’m sitting upright on a couch with a child on my lap. Tonight, it’s a headache. Sometimes it’s a bad dream or an “Oops Mom, I didn’t make it to the bathroom!” A mom is always on duty, always on call, never catches a break. We empty ourselves into our children daily, and while we should be sleeping and “reloading” for the next day, they’re still coming at us. It literally doesn’t stop. It’s exhausting. It’s physically, mentally and emotionally draining. How many times have you, as a mom, counted down the hours ’til bedtime while still at the breakfast table? We’ve all done it. Heck, I do this like once a week! When does it end? Well, the answer is, it doesn’t.
As we continue this lifelong task of motherhood, it will evolve. Instead of our little kids waking us up super early on a Saturday morning, we will be waking up our teenagers on Saturday afternoons. Our reasons for being awake at 1:00am will be because they’re an hour past curfew and we’re pacing the floor. And their little problems of bad dreams and wet beds will become those of worldly pressures and broken hearts. So, perhaps we should stop for a moment and think about just how crucial our job is as mothers. If we can find a way to stop focusing on how exhausting it is for us and just how incredibly important we are to our children, we can change our perspective just a little bit. So, embrace the chaotic days! Let yourself laugh when your child decides to roller skate through the kitchen naked. Enjoy the sounds of your kids playing together regardless of how noisy they may be. Listen intently as they talk non-stop about their day at school. Give those extra hugs and kisses. Pray with them each morning and each night. Let them know that they are your greatest treasures and how you love them more than life itself. The truth is that they are only little for a little while, but regardless of age, they’ll always need you.
We, as moms, often say we deserve a night off. It’s true. We deserve so much more than that. We deserve our own island for goodness sake! (And thank God we don’t always get what we deserve. But that’s another blog for another day.) But yes, go on a date with your husband. Have a girls night out. Go relax and get a massage or a manipedi. Read a book. Or simply take five minutes and lock yourself in your room to breathe! All of this is well and good, just as long as you don’t become self-centered. Remember what our role is everyday. God gives us moms a special amount of grace to keep going. There’s a reason God chose you to raise those precious lives. You’re doing a great job! And a special shout-out to the single moms and moms of children with special needs! You ladies are incredible! So let’s pray that we stay focused on what’s important and stay the course.